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Changing Lanes

I’ve come to appreciate the mechanics for safely changing lanes all the more now that we’ve been helping our teenage children learn to drive.  It can be really unnerving when they look over their shoulder to check their blindspot and the car follows the turning of their head.  Or it’s nerve rattling to hear tires screeching next to me because maybe someone forgot to use their blinker for the lane change.  It’s also “exhilarating” to experience those impulsive lane changes, when someone doesn’t think through the sequence of safe transitions from one lane to the next.  Sometimes, it’s more than a little tempting to tell my teenager to stay in their lane.

Maybe God has some similar thoughts toward us when we try to drive or live in someone else’s lane.  I say this from my own experience of growing up in the ministry and watching dozens of other kids whose parents are ministry leaders.  Lots of us kids really love Jesus and have a deep and sincere passion to serve Jesus as we walk with Him in a vibrant relationship.

The tricky part can happen when we try to drive in our parent’s lane, employ our parent’s talents and neglect our divine design.  When I think about this challenge, it reminds me of the contrasts between David and Solomon, his son.  Both men were obviously called by God to be the king in Israel.  But the kingship of David looked drastically different from the kingship of Solomon, not only because they were two entirely different people, but also because God gave each of them their own lane for leading.

David’s leadership lane was about consolidating Israel’s political position with it’s neighboring countries.  David also firmly established the worship of Jehovah in Israel and set up the country to be a strong leader and very devoted in it’s worship.

In relation to Solomon’s leadership lane, he facilitated massive economic growth for Israel with some great trade routes for commerce with neighboring countries.  Solomon also built the temple to worship Jehovah, a dream that had been in David’s heart for a long time.

Both men lived in their lanes and flourished in their divine destiny.  From reading about David and Solomon, we can take the lane lesson to heart no matter who are parents are or are not.  Driving in the lane that God has designed for us, living according to God’s unique blueprint for us, is necessary as one of the ways that we honor God.

When we try to be someone else or drive in a lane that’s not congruent with our design, ultimately things don’t go well for us.  Of course we have people that we look up to and of course we’d like to learn lessons from other people’s experiences / driving lanes.  At the same time, let’s be careful to live from the blueprint of God’s design in our lives and drive in the lane that God has designed for us!  Then prepare to live an adventurous and fulfilling life!

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Preparing for Mother’s Day

On Sunday, we celebrate the annual holiday, Mother’s Day. For lots of people, this is a wonderful day to remember the great care, nurture, sacrifices & relationships with their moms. And for other peeps, this holiday pokes a wound to remind them who their moms were not. So this holiday has a wide spectrum of reaction in consideration of our upbringing.
But more importantly, let’s be committed to the truth that God is our Heavenly Father, as reveled & confirmed to us by Holy Spirit, based on Romans 8:16. Let’s be certain that we honor our earthly moms but let’s live from the reality that we are the sons & daughters of our Heavenly Father. In this truth, we have our true identity, genuine love, unlimited power, eternal life, infinite resources & grace beyond the sky. Happy Mother’s Day!
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Do a Good Job

Having my kids home for summer break is wonderful & challenging. I certainly enjoy their company & they have super fun personalities. As their mom, I’m also responsible to help them grow into healthy, responsible & productive adults – or at least encourage their decisions to move in those directions. 

Funny thing about this parenting gig: seems like heaps of what I tell them needs to flourish in my life as well. I find that my parental coaching has lots of application in my life & maybe this whole parenting thing is God’s parental efficiency plan. I most certainly don’t want to parent from a place of hypocrisy so I’m pushing myself to do well & live up to the stuff that I want to see my kids exhibit 🙂

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A few lessons from my mom

My mom is a really amazing person on many levels & I have massive respect for her. She’s a great mom & has taught me some important things:
*dont quit – my mom is tenacious!
*have more confidence in the Bible than how you feel, what you hear or see
*be gracious
*teamwork can achieve more than individual efforts – the sum is greater than its parts
*use what God gives you always to exalt Jesus 🙂

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babies without parents

I’ve been around lots of babies between last night & today.  Last night, I got to hang out a little bit w Pastor Jill & baby Drew (i had the honor of attempting to help coach P. Jill during her delivery).  Baby Drew is 11 wks old & thoroughly captivating – she’s smiley, has deep eyes that lock onto your eyes to look deep into your soul (how an 11 wk old does this, escapes me, but i’ll never forget this from last night), bright & FUN!!  Today, I was part of an intro cooking class for Isabell & many of the moms who came had really wonderful babies.  There’s something very soothing about being around new people in small bodies.  They’re fresh, trusting and totally cozy in their skin. 

This is a VERY different experience than i had 2 wks ago in Ethiopia, when i had the privilege of connecting w a 1 year old boy & girl who had been abandoned by their parents.  Their eyes were empty, they were restless, stressed & anxious – even though they were in a safe place w good care. 

These contrasting experiences leave me pondering the effects such vast differences make on these children and what being an adult looks like for parented babies versus non-parented babies.  Just thinking

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