what should I say???

We all have had the experience where something has happened or someone has said something & we were left speechless.  Sometimes, we’ve had people say things that have been really hurtful.  Sometimes, we are in a situation that is very difficult to know how to respond.  Sometimes, a conversation goes in a direction that can be uncomfortable.  These are just a few examples of when we might be left “speechless”.  Thankfully, I’m starting to learn to say less than what I think – whew!  But what should we say in difficult situations, conversations etc?

Here are some thoughts:

  • be encouraging – look for something positive if you’re expected to make a reply
  • wisdom, the leading of the Holy Spirit, helps us to know when we should speak & when we should remain silent;  there are appropriate times to be vocal & there are times when silence is golden
  • listen to what God would want to achieve through the interchange – getting on God’s page is more helpful than pushing my personal agenda
  • speak life – acknowledge shortcomings, be forgiving & affirming
  • Jesus said that people who are peace makers are a blessing because they’re called the sons of God – making peace isn’t the same thing as rolling over & playing dead, but it also isn’t about escalating a conflict.
  • trying to resolve conflict through email, facebook, text messaging, voicemail, linked in, etc is really difficult & sometimes impossible.  Be mindful of what you’re trying to accomplish if you bring up difficult conversations in these settings because there is HUGE AMOUNTS of room for misunderstanding 🙂

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