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Stay-cation with Teenagers

For two years now, we’ve done a stay-cation so we could save our vacation dollars to do a strategic family vacation.  When we floated the idea to our kids last year, they agreed with our plans & definitely enjoyed the strategic family vacation we took earlier this year.

In the meantime, we are on year two of our stay-cation & it’s an interesting journey to stay-cate with teenagers, attempting to limit screen time & maximize family time.  Teenagers are wonderful people with strong opinions & developing individualities, so doing a stay-cation with them, aiming for happy campers, is challenging.

Here are some things we’ve done that are somewhat helpful:

  • get everyone’s input with at least 3 realistic ideas of things they’d like to do with the family
  • populate everyone’s ideas throughout the stay-cation, giving validation to each individual’s input
  • communicate the stay-cation schedule / events to everyone, giving them a chance to coach their own attitudes before participating in another’s suggestion that might be unappealing
  • communicate budget parameters when soliciting the ideas for activities
  • give ample space / time for individuality to balance family events with individual breathing room
  • pray alot 🙂

Vacationing with teenagers can be fun & challenging.  Most of all, it affords me the opportunity to lean into Holy Spirit to help me coach my internal narratives & attitudes 🙂

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Keys to Being Productive

I have teenage kids at home for Summer break. While I enjoy their company, I’m in their lives to help them be successful & time management is part of the drill. Here are some coaching points I’m giving them, that might be helpful reminders for you (and PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR IDEAS, as well):

  • Outcome Engineering: looking down the road, what are the big things that need to be achieved? Then develop steps & the timeline that will produce that achievement so it’s doesn’t become overwhelming or impossible by its size or urgency.
  • Incentives: do the work & save the fun as a reward rather than the reverse
  • Daily plan: create a daily routine that integrates the steps for the big projects, as well as the habits you want to foster.
  • Accountability: give someone or a few people permission to ask about your daily plan & progress on the big projects

What are some other things you’ve learned to help you be productive? Thanks for sharing!!

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Managing Stress

It’s not 9am yet & I think I’ve already endured a week’s worth of stress. Ok, that’s an overreaction, but my daughter just drove me home & she’s just beginning to learn how to drive.  We also just dropped off my son for his first day of high school, so I’m sitting at home endeavoring to calm my frayed nerves. Normally, I’m a relatively relaxed person but I can get pretty jittery when it comes to stuff with my kids. 

Seems to me that we have have areas in our lives that make us jittery & it’s not possible to always avoid these stressors. Sometimes we have to go through stress & get better at managing it rather than stress managing us. 

So here are some pointers that could be helpful to you or someone you know who’s in a stressful season:

  • it can help to take a pause, close your eyes & catch your breath
  • consider if you’re stressed about an event or if there’s a deeper issue that is happening in your emotions / thoughts 
  • stress is usually limited in time or to a situation – it can pass or get smaller when we think about the big picture
  • pray & ask the Holy Spirit to help you have peace that is bigger / stronger than any stress

Sometimes stress can help us lean into God more & rely on ourselves less. In this context, God can get some excellent mileage out of stress & we can have a more intimate relationship with God. That seems to be one of the things that God does so very well in our lives – turning to broken into beautiful & stress into cozy communion with the Holy Spirit!

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Teenage Drivers


I’m entering the world of teenage drivers. My daughter has recently acquired her learner’s permit & we’re off to the races, so to speak. I already bite my nails, so maybe I’ll take up chewing gum in addition to strengthening my prayer life ,)
In all seriousness, she’s doing a good job & we have no wrecks or mishaps to date. Some of the things she’s working on include:

  • Lane placement – balance & staying in the middle is a good rule of thumb for healthy living
  • Scan the intersection – don’t get into a situation without making an initial assessment, this prevents unnecessary collisions & injuries 
  • Smooth stops – let’s consider that some things in our lives need closure but let’s do this as smoothly as possible to avoid whiplash 

Seems to me that these skills have some really awesome application for our daily living & not just driving lessons 🙂

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