making decisions

I have friends who hate to make decisions.  The bigger the decision, the worse the gridlock, to the point that they become virtually paralyzed.  I’m sure that some of their struggle with making decisions comes from some past challenges as well as some current insecurities that hide in dark corners of their mind, coming out to haunt at the most inopportune times.  So when I read this morning about Lot and Abraham, with Lot’s decision to live in Sodom, I think there could be some practical help available in this story for making decisions:

  • don’t let circumstances be the fundamental reason for a decision: Lot chose land that looked appealing, but maybe he knew that Sodom and Gomorrah weren’t top grade choices for cities in which to live
  • discuss conflict before making decisions:  the whole reason for Lot to move was partially driven by a conflict between Abraham’s and Lot’s shepherds
  • consider the choices that are available:  from reading this story, it doesn’t seem to me that Lot considered all of the options that were available (exchange some of his cattle wealth for gold, come under Abraham’s leadership, create a partnership, etc).
  • think about the consequences:  I seriously doubt that Lot would have chosen to live in Sodom had he known more about the people who lived there
  • Pray – when Lot made his decision, there’s no mention of him asking for divine input or guidance;  in contrast, God was highly involved with Abraham, maybe because Abraham was obedient and highly esteemed / treasured God’s input

we are so very smart ,)

Recently, I had a few problems with my phone.  It started to delete some of my email accounts a few months ago, then recently, it would do random & unpredictable things.  It became uber funky a few days ago & deleted all of my contacts.  Yesterday, it decided to delete all of my calendar appointments & this morning, it deleted all of my email accounts.  I felt like I was flying blind – but it also reminded me about how we used to not have wireless phones, nor emails, synched calendars, text messages, etc.  Clearly, we’ve come a LONG way in our tech usage, but we aren’t so smart that we don’t need God.

  • I can have the fastest 4G network, but without the “Jesus” direct line, theres some communication lag ,)
  • I can have the best wifi access we know, but without the Holy Spirit as my wireless, I’m dead in the water
  • I can have the best love affair with my phone, but no one completes me more than the Trinity 🙂

Happy Thurs to you!

conflict resolution

A few of my kids went to school this morning after a heated conversation.  Both had tears in their eyes & it rips me up as their mom to see this tension and strife.  Which makes me wonder how God “feels” when we are yucky with each other.  The truth is that any relationship worth it’s weight will have to work through conflict.  So here are a few pointers to help with this challenge:

  • benefit of the doubt:  assume the best rather than blame the worst
  • double standard:  be mindful that you don’t just the other person by actions but ourselves by intentions
  • breathing space:  sometimes a “cool down” can bring some clarity and options that aren’t available when we are in the heat of a conflict
  • be generous:  seek to understand before being understood
  • forgive well:  practice makes perfect
  • conclusion:  sometimes the best outcome is to agree to disagree without being disagreeable 🙂
  • pray

Happy Monday to you!