I prefer open doors rather than closed doors, but it seems to me that God leads us not only with open doors, but also with doors that are shut airtight. Sometimes it bugs me when a door is closed to me & I can take it as personal rejection, which is always tough. But if I choose to see a closed door as part of God’s guidance, then it doesn’t seem to hurt as much & doesn’t feel quite so personal. It also helps me to remember that the Apostle Paul had his fair share of closed doors, many of which he was locked behind as a prisoner!
Let’s consider that God has the right doors to open for us & we can trust that God is working all things together for our good as we stay in love with God & stay true to the divine purposes in our lives!
“He doesn’t like nor love me.” This was a common theme in Leah’s life. Leach was the wife of Jacob & daughter of Laban, Rachel’s sister. Leah’s dad pawned her off to be Jacob’s wife through trickery & then after she was married, she rightfully felt that Jacob “hated” her – Leah personified rejection, the walking illustration of “a chip on the shoulder”.
Rejection is awful no matter when or how we experience it, it’s awful but we all go through it, operative word, “THROUGH”.
Leah’s strategy for rejection management had a few helpful points for us:
*Reuben – her first son was called Reuben, with the declaration that God sees her & we must know that God not only sees us but we must keep our eyes on God!
*Simeon – her second son’s name was meant to say that God hears us – you have God’s ear
*Levi was her third son & his name means to attach or connect – remain connected & attached to God, never rejected by God 🙂
Be very clear that God never turns a blind eye not deaf ear to you & that you are wholly accepted, embraced & celebrated by the Creator of the universe, fearfully & wonderfully made!!
“Eveybody likes you, Sarah!” That’s what my dad would always say when I’d come home from school, complaining that no one liked me. Now that I think about it, the truth is somewhere between the 2 extremes: everyone & no one. Rejection is tricky, but all of us have to manage it at various times & in varying degrees. Here are some thoughts that I hope you’ll find helpful:
rejection is universal: everyone gets rejected at some point (some of those points are linear, connecting the dots & some are hops & skips)
being rejected isn’t as important as what you do with it
is there a reason for you being rejected? Do you need to make some adjustments?
forgiveness redeems rejection & transforms it to something of great value (consider Joseph & his brothers who sold him into slavery in Genesis)
God never rejects you – you are accepted among the beloved – Eph 1:6
In Jesus’ life, His crucifixion (the ultimate rejection) came immediately on the heels of Palm Sunday
Rejection is a tricky topic because sometimes our perceptions aren’t always accurate. But whether rejection is real or perceived, we have to deal with it constructively or it can be extremely destructive. So here are some suggestions:
*focusing on rejection usually seems to only make it worse or to be magnified in our thinking – better to bring it to Jesus
*consider the roots of rejection, if it comes from yourself or from something external
*rejection is always eligible for redemption (Joseph, Jacob, Jesus & more)
*forgiveness is a necessary ingredient for rejection to be redeemed 🙂
I’ve been thinking alot about the closed doors that Jacob experienced in his life: the door was closed for him to stay at home when he tricked his dad for the blessing, the door was closed for him to stay w Laban when he recognized that he’d “worn out his welcome”, the door was closed for him (or so it seemed) when he “lost” Joseph to a wild animal, etc. Jacob had ALOT of closed doors in his life & I think that these developments were extremely disturbing to him.
I think that perhaps the same is true for us – we don’t like it when things change & places of previous acceptance & comfort are no longer available. Understandably, we tend to dislike instability. But here’s the power of a closed door:
it means that God has something different open for you,
it means that you may possibly be moving into a new season,
it could mean that God has a promotion for you,
it could mean that the vision for your life has been too small
Don’t wallow in rejection or closed doors. Don’t get obstinate & refuse to change or move forward. Celebrate because God is up to something really good in your life!!!
Sorry for the long delay in blogging. Last week was a rough week – I caught the cold my kids had, we had TV taping & I had a few other plates I was trying to spin (I dropped a few plates).
Here’s something interesting God spoke to me last week & perhaps you’ll find it helpful: “don’t reject or diminish God’s provision because it doesn’t meet your expectations”.
I’ve really mused on this idea, especially in light of the events of Jesus’ life leading up to His crucifixion. Humanity rejected God’s provision of Jesus because He didn’t meet their expectations (along w many other reasons). I see myself doing this as well. For example, God will give me strength to go through a situation but not rescue me from it. So because He doesn’t “rescue” me, I get bent out of shape w Him rather than being grateful for His strength. How about the times when I’m not really happy w Reece (my husband) for whatever reason? Or what about when my job isn’t going quite like I want it to?
Please understand, I’m not saying that we should just bury our head in the sand & pretend that everything is always sunny w no rain. However, I think that we can often be a gripey bunch of humans when we don’t get our way. If things aren’t going as you’d wanted or planned, then look around for God because He’s probably doing things off the plot – praise Him! Whew!