I love my family, full stop. Sometimes it’s easier to love than others, but my love for each member of my family is embedded deep in my heart. Regardless of my deep feelings & commitment of love, it’s important that I express this love to each individual & that requires me to pay attention really well. Expressing the love that’s in our hearts is an essential ingredient for remaining connected but how I express this love has to be meaningful to the person receiving my loving expression. So for example, one of my family members really like to hold hands, hug & cuddle. So for this person, I need to remember that love in their perspective is most meaningful by touch. I have another family member who likes to have time & a listening ear, not holding hands as much. So with this member, I endeavor to keep some dates on the calendar to have some one-to-one time.
The premise for loving well is grounded in the 5 love languages: touch, gifts, service, time & affirmation. Let’s learn what is a meaningful expression of love to the people we love so that we can love them in ways that nurture our connection with them! Let’s remember to love well!
Unimportant, irrelevant, insignificant and altogether meaningless. Sometimes I have conversations and interactions with people where I try to figure out where we might have some common ground and find something about which we can both enjoy discussing. When I talk with my friends whose kids attend the same school with my kids, we often find the common ground related to school stuff. When I’m speaking in a church or at a conference and connecting with people in these environments, we often talk about God and the Bible. But not everyone wants to talk about school stuff, or Bible stuff, knitting, or how to get in better shape, snowboarding, or Soren Kierkegaard or God or prostitutes having babies that need safety and protection, . . . . We all have things that we are passionate about that aren’t interesting or meaningful to other people. But here’s the totally cool piece:
All of you is meaningful to God. God is altogether interested in your life and everything in which you’re interested. God has the capacity to be fully engaged, interested and participatory in every area and interest of your life! All of you is meaningful!!