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Having Jesus Relationships

I just finished a really wonderful phone call & I’m enjoying the settled & exciting residue of that conversation. As I’m thinking about it now, I’m recognizing God’s fingerprints on both the chat & this friendship.  To recognize & appreciate God friendships, here are a few pointers:

  • differences are delightful but conformity is bland.  Enjoy the journey to discover different perspectives & ways of doing things!
  • trust and transparency are interdependent.
  • communicate for depth & connection, not just information
  • keep forgiveness as a core priority, fresh and authentic
  • pray over your friendships to discern God friendships and natural friendships

David & Jonathon are a great model for a God friendship!  Feel free to read about this friendship for some interesting insights – 1 Samuel 18-20.

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Through, Around, Avoid

Jesus’ humanity seems really clear to me when He asked His Father take take the cup of crucixion and suffering away from Him in Gethsamane.  And His humanity seems to get even more accentuated when He sweats drops of blood and wants His friends to keep watch with Him in this ordeal.  But Jesus didn’t avoid the cross nor did He go around the suffering, or escape it.

Sometimes going through hardship is the path that we walk, even when we want to avoid, escape, go around or get delivered from the struggles.  If you find yourself walking through a difficult season, here are some things that might be helpful (and feel free to share this blog with your friends who might be struggling):

  • be mindful of your attention & where you focus:  sometimes we focus on the hardship & that can make it bigger / worse;  sometimes we focus on a distraction & it can be helpful temporarily;  no matter what, let’s keep our eyes on Jesus because He’s well acquainted with our journey
  • keep walking:  sometimes the only thing we can do is to put one foot in front of the next & keep going.  There is much value in being persistent
  • stay in love with Jesus because Romans 8:28-29 says that God works everything to our benefit as we stay in love with Jesus & true to His design / purposes in our lives
  • keep steady with spiritual inputs:  being consistent with daily prayer & Bible time gives God opportunity to speak into our lives, strengthen & guide us, along with heaps more
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Where We Begin

This is a picture of the pool where I took swimming lessons when I was 5. I walked past it just now & had lots of fond memories like: Marco Polo, swim freeze tag, races, wrestling matches & lots more. To this day, I still love to swim & this pool was my introduction to a lifetime of enjoyment!

In a similar way, when we get introduced to Jesus, we can experience a life of enjoyment, fulfillment, strength, grace, wonder, forgiveness & best of all, genuine love. May this blog remind you to go back to your first live with Jesus, no matter the circumstances of your life, things you’ve messed up, wounds you’ve experienced, misunderstandings, etc. Let’s allow Jesus to love our hearts back to the deeply fulfilling relationship He so intensely wants with us!

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Taking My Daughter to College

The fateful day has arrived & this isn’t like the kindergarten transition. It’s lots harder, full stop. As I write this, I’m swallowing my tears & endeavoring to keep myself together as I suspect other parents & my daughter wouldn’t appreciate heavy water works right now.

So where is God in this day?  Well, I sense God loving me & looking after me with reconnecting with my college roommate. I sense God helping me by watching my daughter do her room & interact with a plethora of people with poise, grace & ease. I sense God helping me stay busy & distracted to keep the tears at bay. And I sense God encouraging me to trust God to help my daughter to grow, learn, adult & deepen her relationship with Trinity.

Holy buckets, this ain’t kindergarten!!

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Sneak a Peek :)

I like getting to know people more for who they are & not just what they do.  Indeed, individuals who have boring jobs can be scintillating people!  And no matter what a person does, I firmly believe that each of us has an interesting & fascinating interior!

So I’m really happy to introduce you a behind the scenes interview with some super interesting people!  If you watch this link, you’ll meet a guy who has animated a guide to end-time prophecy.  When I first heard of this “guide”, I was not only perplexed but even skeptical.  So now I want to introduce you to the guy who did this, as he is a really fascinating person!!  Meet Todd Hampson 🙂

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3 Mistakes to Avoid with Friends

As I write this blog, I’m painfully aware that I’ve made more than my share of mistakes with friendships.  I’ve fallen short in terms of being consistent, not expressing myself well, being impatient, insecurity struggles & loads more.

And because I’ve been reading Job for a few weeks now, I’m watching his friends and their interactions with Job, noting some stuff to avoid.  Here are some things that might be helpful to you:

  1. Listen to understand more than reply:  Job’s friends sat with him for 7days before they ever said a word.
  2. Presence trumps absence:  Job’s friends didn’t run away when his life went into a cataclysmic meltdown.  Let’s be careful that we’re not fair weather friends
  3. Compassion is better than criticism:  Job’s friends looked for his secret faults as a cause for his suffering, but they were skinny on compassion.  When our friends go through horrendous experiences, it’s more loving to be compassionate than look for & point out their flaws & failures.

Here’s to friendship & how God helps us grow in “iron sharpening iron” friendships, based on Prov 27:17 🙂

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The Prickly Factor

I like hummingbirds 🙂

Some days I feel prickly, like a cactus or porcupine. This is of course challenging for people who might interact with me, they might gets some barbs or needles.   When I know I’m feeling prickly, I try to do a few things that are helpful:

  • Why?  Often, it helps me if I can figure out the causes of being prickly, like sketchy sleep, travel, workload, hormones, people interactions, etc.
  • How? It’s important when I’m prickly that I’m careful about how I interact with people. Sometimes I put myself in timeout until I can play nice

No matter how I feel, it helps me to remember that I’m deeply loved & highly treasured by Holy Spirit. I’m also grateful that Holy Spirit gives me strength to have self control, not letting my flesh out weight the fruits of the Spirit from Galatians 5:25 🙂

 

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Stay-cation with Teenagers

For two years now, we’ve done a stay-cation so we could save our vacation dollars to do a strategic family vacation.  When we floated the idea to our kids last year, they agreed with our plans & definitely enjoyed the strategic family vacation we took earlier this year.

In the meantime, we are on year two of our stay-cation & it’s an interesting journey to stay-cate with teenagers, attempting to limit screen time & maximize family time.  Teenagers are wonderful people with strong opinions & developing individualities, so doing a stay-cation with them, aiming for happy campers, is challenging.

Here are some things we’ve done that are somewhat helpful:

  • get everyone’s input with at least 3 realistic ideas of things they’d like to do with the family
  • populate everyone’s ideas throughout the stay-cation, giving validation to each individual’s input
  • communicate the stay-cation schedule / events to everyone, giving them a chance to coach their own attitudes before participating in another’s suggestion that might be unappealing
  • communicate budget parameters when soliciting the ideas for activities
  • give ample space / time for individuality to balance family events with individual breathing room
  • pray alot 🙂

Vacationing with teenagers can be fun & challenging.  Most of all, it affords me the opportunity to lean into Holy Spirit to help me coach my internal narratives & attitudes 🙂

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Open During Construction

I drove by a hospital & read the sign, “Open During Construction”.  And I began to think about the possibility of the hospital being closed during construction.  To be certain, construction is a pain in the neck because it creates detours, messy environments, unpleasant views, health hazards & communication confusion. But usually, construction is the attempt to take what’s normal or rundown & make it better.

To this end, as a follower of Jesus, it feels like I’m always under construction. And despite being under construction, I still have to function & engage in daily living, kind of like being open during construction. So let’s appreciate & be gracious with each other, that Holy Spirit is working in us, so that we look & act like Jesus more & more!  2Cor 3:18 🙂

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