Recently, I’ve been somewhat frustrated with one of my friends because they’ve made some very silly decisions that have had some fairly negative consequences. I find myself being impatient with my friend & wanting them to change. I’m trying to watch the words that I say to my friend, so that I don’t hurt their feelings due to my impatience. So far, here’s my impatience insights:
- if impatience is left unchecked, it can be very destructive
- impatience isn’t only related to our words, but it also can affect our attitudes & actions, so that even if we don’t say anything, we must still remain vigilant against even its subtle expression
- sometimes it helps to talk about how we feel, but its important to be responsible for our own feelings & not give someone else control of how we may feel or act
- sometimes the best antidote to impatience is a slow, intentional & methodical application of patience
- James 1:4 – let patience have her perfect work so that you may be mature & complete. Give patience permission to work in your life 🙂
At some point in each of our lives, we ask the question, “What’s my purpose? Why am I on earth?” I think this is a universal human question & there are lots of ways to answer this line of questioning, but here’s a simple approach that God has been dealing w me on of late:
I believe that a significant reason that I’m alive is to raise the awareness of Jesus in my world. Raising this awareness happens in a VARIETY of ways:
- sometimes through a direct conversation, helping someone see God’s hand moving in their life, asking a question that helps a person reach out to Jesus, praying for a person when they express a need, . . . . .
- sometimes through an act of kindness, a smile, a friendly gesture, an encouraging word, letting someone go in front of you in a line, serving a person, generous forgiveness, . . . .
- sometimes through a provision, being generous with our resources (time, energy, finances), paying for the coffee of the person behind you in line, giving a homeless person a meal, giving a starving baby meals for a month with saving moses ,) , . . . .
I want my life to make Jesus attractive to the people with whom I interact – not just because its Easter week & the seasonal trend to invite people to church (although let’s all get really motivated & bring hordes of friends to church). I want to spread the fragrance of Jesus wherever I go. I want to illuminate His presence in all my conversations. I want to express His genuine love with His extravagant provisions. For me, let this purpose be the preoccupation of each day.
Happiness isn’t as elusive as it sounds. For all the philosophers & philogists who are now figuring out if they want discuss etymological differences between joy & happiness, philosophical conundrums in epistemology as it relates to the existential state of happiness in a post-modern context, based on emerging paradigms and other complicated things – this blog may be too simple for your taste.
For the rest of us, here’s something interesting I read in last week’s paper about some simple things we can do to increase our happiness.
- give thanks – always find things to be thankful for (when you look, you automatically find your focus will improve)
- Do good – carry someone’s groceries to the car, take some soup to someone who’s sick, call a friend & tell them that you appreciate them, tell your boss that you appreciate having a job, donate blood. Kind acts always leaving you feeling good
- Get involved – hibernating in your apartment or house can lead to some deep depression. Volunteering at church can be a nice antidote because it helps get us out of the axis of self-centeredness. Participate with life by engaging with others
- Chose or lose – a scientific study showed that “only 10% of our well-being is determined by circumstances & 40% is a matter of intentional activity.”
These suggestions are from a secular perspective, but they sure sound alot like Biblical principles. Gee, makes me think that there might be something worthwhile in that there Bible. 😉