The ultra famous rocker “Prince” died today at the age of 57, of causes yet unknown. If you ever listened to pop radio in the 1980s, there’s a good chance you heard at least a few of his songs – “1999”, “When Doves Cry” & “Let’s Go Crazy”, to name a few. Prince was a very private and creative person. His religious leanings were probably in the Jehovah Witness persuasion & he didn’t really comply with anything institutional nor common. At one point, he changed his name to a symbol & that’s probably where I lost the plot with him.
While you can find plenty of things in his life that didn’t agree with you, he was nevertheless an innovative creator of a rare breed. Some of that creativity was bizarre but some of it was sheer genius.
While many of the people who read this blog may not be familiar with Prince, his premature death drives home the point that life is short. Let’s be certain to live with divine intentionality and pray for the people not only in our daily living but also for the people have platform and influence in today’s culture.
We have had access to massive communication improvements over the past few decades. If you think about it, did you ever pull the phone cord out of the wall? In the ’80s, a tweet would have been “twit” mis-pronounced. And my idea of “wifi” in the ’70s was more like “hi-fi” in our house with speakers in every room so I could play records throughout the house at maximum volume. Communication has certainly improved, but we can all stand to make some improvements in our inter-personal communication, especially as it relates to conflict 🙂
Here are some tips that you might find useful in resolving conflict:
- Understand the issue: get on the same page about what you’re discussing because often the center of the conflict comes from not discussing the same content
- Separate what was said from what was heard (that’s not what I said, but that’s what was heard)
- Consider the emotions & expectations associated w the conversation – these items can make communication hazy & ineffective if they’re not identified
- Be patient & listen without asserting your opinion
- Own your part of the communication challenge – blame sabotages communications & does nothing constructive
- Be clear by removing subtleties, nuances & emotional telepathy; these efforts will only leave you frustrated
This morning, my kids & I were reading in James about how faith without action is worthless & it was an interesting conversation. We can tell alot about what we believe by looking at our actions. In actual fact, our actions have greater volume & visibility in our lives than our intentions. In addition to faith, we also talked about how faith works by love & that love is a decision & not merely a warm, huggy feeling. Maybe some of our faith is dysfunctional because our love is inert or tainted with self-deception. Whatever the case, I was challenged from my conversation with my kids to let God’s love flow through me so that my faith will have effective & productive feet 🙂
Here’s something fun to watch: call to action ,)