I need to do some heavy duty Spring cleaning, like cleaning out the kitchen drawers & window washing. There are some other big projects I need to work on like finishing my Saving Moses book, having some difficult conversations, wrestling with some internal challenges and lots more. Because these projects are hard for me, I tend to put them off, try to ignore them, justify not doing them because I’m busy, hope they’ll evaporate or do other stuff to avoid these difficult projects.
But alas, these difficult projects don’t disappear. So now what?
Here are some things that are helping me to work on various difficulties:
prayerfully look the project square in the eye, so it can be less intimidating
consider a step to move forward with making some progress with this project
be gentle but firm with yourself to keep going forward
celebrate progress and not just perfection or completion
nestle into God’s unchanging and ever faithful love for you – this helps you to live from a more healthy mindset 🙂
Doing forgiveness is more difficult than talking about it. Full stop.
And yet, it’s one of the only cause and affect activities Jesus talks about, based on Matt 6:14. This is where Jesus says that if we forgive others, our Heavenly Father will forgive us. And Lord knows that I needs heaps of forgiveness! I suspect you might need alot of forgiveness as well 🙂
So what does it look like when we don’t forgive? Here are a few things for your consideration. When we don’t forgive, we:
nurse and rehearse the offense / wound in our thoughts & other people who will sympathize with our pain
look for opportunities to lash out or pay back the hurt
refuse to let the person “off the hook” or recognize and accept God’s grace for them
At the same time, when we forgive it doesn’t mean that we:
position ourself to get repeatedly hurt
excuse, dismiss or ignore the hurtful behavior
continually bring up the offense with the person who was hurtful
Even though forgiveness can be tricky, we need to be forgiving people and we need to keep our forgiveness fresh!
This morning, my husband told me that I could go buy some stylish clothes since I haven’t bought any for awhile. He said “stylish” as the operative word, because my idea of clothes shopping is to get what’s comfortable at Costco & downplay the style concern. My strategy doesn’t play out so well for public speaking, media work, leadership image, etc. And in full disclosure, shopping for “stylish” clothes almost makes me physically sick. Why I struggle with this is fodder for a future blog.
Nevertheless, my daughter happened to hear what my husband said & she’s the style guru in our house. She immediately hopped on the bandwagon, “Mom!! I can help you with that!!” She proceeded to tell me about a “painless” way to order stylish clothes online, so I gave her the green light to give it a try. She’s helping me with this adventure & only the Lord knows how much I need help with this!!
I’m really glad that we have Holy Spirit as our continuous Help, expressed in a variety of contexts and methods. Let’s do our best to let Holy Spirit help us with various troublesome areas in our lives 🙂