Yesterday, a few of my friends told me some heartbreaking news. One friend is facing a monstrous health crisis & another friend has a family crisis that’s is beyond sad. I deeply love these friends & learning of these crises touches me to my core.
So what to do? Should I give them key Bible verses that could “fix” their situation? Should I tell them to be strong in their faith? Should I rebuke any negative words? What should I do?
When I look in the Bible for some help & direction, it’s noteworthy that Job’s friends sat with him for an entire week before they said anything. And maybe that was their best input because their words don’t seem very comforting to me.
Here are some ideas that might be helpful:
- Be present – pay attention to not only the words being spoken, but also the body language & emotions that are being felt
- Be steady – I’ve found that people who go through traumatic experiences can often crave someone being consistent & steady
- Be gentle – instead of assuming you know what the person needs or wants, it’s better to ask.
- Be prayerful – it’s very helpful to sincerely pray even on your own for the person & not just with or around them.