And it’s MASSIVELY FRUSTRATING!!!!
When my car isn’t working, it’s frustrating but I can usually figure out a work around – uber, catching a ride wth a friend or rescheduling an appointment. But sometimes there’s no work around & whatever isn’t working can turn into a meltdown crisis.
I just experienced this with s Skype interview I was scheduled to do & im still in the residual frustration fumes being mad at skype, etc.
What should we do in these moments of intense frustration? The things I want to do (hit something, yell, kick a chair, not write my blog) these things aren’t beneficial. So here are some ideas that might be more constructive for you when you have a frustrating meltdown:
Take a deep breath – this physical action helps settle my mental disarray
Perspective alignment – pray & ask for the Holy Spirit to help you to have a divine alignment on your perspective
Use a tourniquet – don’t allow the bleeding from the frustration to spill over into other areas of your life
Think in terms of practice – the next time will be better 🙂
I think our lives go through different seasons & timings. Some of these seasons are easier than others. But presently, I seem to find myself in a bit of a frustrating season. It seems like wherever I look, there’s something messed up, missing or not going smoothly. I’ve got some kid challenges – dentist adventures, back to school prep, behavior coaching, etc. I’ve got some work challenges – some changes with how we do our work, some people changes, moving adjustments, etc. Reece is presently leading a missions trip in Haiti, which is TOTALLY EXCELLENT for him, but adds some pressure on me. I could continue with my list, but I think you get the gist & you probably don’t want any help to think about your own frustrations.
So here are some helpful thoughts:
some frustrations are temporary – when there’s a foreseeable end, it helps to remember that there will be a conclusion
deal with one thing at a time – when we pile frustration upon frustration they can get overwhelming; looking at them one at a time makes them more manageable
lessons: it’s important to ask yourself what ways God might be challenging you to grow in (stop procrastinating, self-discipline, time management, etc)
exercise: there’s alot of merit to getting into some exercise routines to help release stress through physical exercise 🙂
escaping isn’t always the answer – sometimes there’s no better solution than to look a frustration in the eyes & deal with it head on;
prayer – this is probably my best tool to deal with frustration: lifting up to God what’s happening or what I’m frustrated about & then listening & watching for His answers & help
May God help us to not be overwhelmed with our frustrations but to keep our confidence in His abilities, love & wisdom 🙂
I took my kids to the dentist today for the lovely Summer check-up. Let me say up front, that I like our current dentist for my kids even though the last one was shady, but that’s a different story. So today’s report from their check up wasn’t very whippy. One of my kids (who will remain nameless) has more than 3 cavities – which gives evidence to them tuning out my daily reminders to brush their teeth (maybe God has some similar thoughts when I blow Him off).
When the hygienist called me in to give me the report, I felt like I was being scolded for my kid’s negligence, just compounding my frustration level. Grrrrrrr
So here are my take-aways from today’s dentist adventure:
even though I’m their mom, if they don’t cooperate with my instructions they will increase the probability of negative consequences, despite my best efforts
the point of grace isn’t to get away with something but rather to change our behaviors
even though I may be frustrated with my kids, this doesn’t give me license to be mean or insensitive to everyone around me
obedience is better than cavities ,)
All of this is on the heels of me leaving for Asia, to watch God work His wonders for @savingmoses in Cambodia – please don’t fight the urge to send up some prayers for us! I’ll keep you posted with blogs, etc about what’s happening 🙂
A few weeks ago I had my Greek mid-term & i was pretty wound up about it for a variety of reasons. Bottom line, from my opinion, I needed to do well in it to pass the class. However, if you would have asked me about it, I would have gone off on the class – grammar griping, content clarity, instrumental datives, absolute genitives, possessive pronouns, etc. The more I griped, the worse it got.
Intervene God (whew!) – in our Philippians study, the next verses we’re working on talk about doing everything without complaining or arguing – even taking a greek mid-term. Furthermore, I thought about one of my friends in Ethiopia who would LOVE the chance to study greek. Needless to say, God put me in His cross hairs & fired away. I’m really glad because I shut my mouth, studied & smiled, generally.