This Summer has been a really wonderful time with my family & enjoying some fun activities & great relationships. Its been interesting trying to balance & juggle the various schedules, events & priorities – sometimes more successfully than others. Nevertheless, it seems to me that life has different seasons & these seasons help us with our flexibility & working through changes. What I think is super important to keep in the various seasons through which we go are some hints that never change:
*God always loves you because God is love
*you won’t be proficient in everything in your life – that’s God’s job & not ours ,)
*change is more constant in our lives than non-change
*we always need God in our lives 🙂
I get asked the question alot about balancing family, travel, ministry, church, work, etc. and I think its a GREAT question that I also frequently ask. I’m comfortable to share my thoughts on the balance topic, with the foundational understanding that I don’t see myself in any way as an expert on the subject, nor would I even pretend to be all-knowing on this really important question. With that being said, here are some of my thoughts:
- for me, balance is often a moment by moment & decision by decision activity
- being flexible is essential for balance
- focusing on what is most essential helps me to keep my balance
- balance sometimes means that I have to re-shuffle schedules, plans & activities (with this re-shuffling, its important not to get cranky about a change of plans)
- for me, margin is essential for balance – when I fill time & energy to the maximum, I find it hard to concentrate & make good choices
- balance requires wisdom – a gift that God gives to us when we ask Him with faith
Balance – a very good goal that requires agility, wisdom & nimble choices 🙂
Flexibility – growing When I was in High School, I played basketball & I really enjoyed my team, the competitions, challenges, etc. For 2 years, I was a forward who was usually the 1st or 2nd substitute to come into the game. My coach really helped me appreciate the contribution I could make to our team in that role as a substitute. During my senior year, one of our key guards got hurt in the 1st game of the season & her injury prohibited her from playing for the rest of the year. My coach talked with me about stepping into this role – he explained that this new role would have new responsibilities, assignments & challenges. From our conversation, I shifted to playing starting guard, something I had never done before but I was excited to start! Unfortunately, I didn’t do as well as I wanted to in that position but for me, the experience was an important contributing influence in learning to be flexible.
Flexible – If you’re like me, we want to be good at what we do. Sometimes, if we’re not careful, this desire translates to only doing what we are good at. No one likes to do poorly or fail. But I think this can cause a dicey problem for us when we genuinely let God direct our lives. Recently, I’ve been in different situations where I need to do things in which I don’t consider myself naturally talented. Like my basketball team in High School, I’m being asked to be a guard & not the forward I’ve gotten used to playing. I sense God asking me to let Him use me in different capacities than what I’ve become comfortable in. While I can’t say that I’m amped to do these things, I am definitely amped to grow in my dependence on God because I’ve found that such dependence on God fosters greater intimacy with Him – one of the key goals of my life. So when I’m in situations where I’m not naturally comfortable or gifted, rather than flounder and try to use any human savy I can muster up, I’m learning to lean into God more. Flexibility can be a path God uses to draw us closer to Him.