Being part of an elite group can be very attractive. The sense of belonging, being special & set apart appeals to our emotions & sense of significance. Sometimes there can seem to be some good reasons for being exclusive: excellence, comraderie, influence, achieving high goals, etc).
A problem, however, with being exclusive is that it becomes easy to allow the status of the group to influence the way we see ourselves. Sometimes we can think that being part of an exclusive group makes us elite or a cut above “other people.”
Another problem with being exclusive (religious, social, economic, fashion, athletic, etc) is that we can often remove ourselves from connecting with others who are not as elite, don’t achieve as highly, don’t dress in the same fashion, don’t had the same income bracket, aren’t as athletic, or don’t have a similar mental prowess.
The biggest problem with being exclusive is that such a mindset runs entirely contrary to how Jesus taught us to live. In John 13:14-15, Jesus models for us a servant mindset, ready to wash feet & lay down His life for others for the simple & revolutionary goal to express genuine love. Let’s always keep our sites on the end goal to love with a genuine heart & sincere expression!
I seriously love to watch people. I love to watch their facial expressions, the way they interact with others, the creative clothing combinations and lots more! I love to see that despite our best efforts to fit in, we each have our distinct individuality – reflections of our infinitely creative Divine Designer. When I listen to people, I hear ideas & perspectives that I’ve never considered before, leaving me sometimes awestruck.
All of this leaves me fully appreciating the reality that we are each fearfully & wonderfully made, in the image of God, valuable far beyond any human estimation or transaction. All of this originates from the fundamental premise that we are unconditionally loved by our Creator.
I have some home projects that I’ve agreed to work on to get fixed – washer issues, mini-blind stuff & a few more odd jobs. Truth be known, I’m not very good on the home project front so these things kind of get conveniently delayed. There are also some things that I’m working on with personal development, like using my time more efficiently, being more confident, communicating with more grace, etc.
Sometimes in our efforts to improve, we neglect to appreciate the distinct & unique qualities that God has designed in us. Sometimes we wrongly see our distinctions as flaws because we desperately want to fit in & belong. There are some things, however, that God designed in us that are uniquely & beautifully ours. Let’s revel in God’s love for us & be really good at who God has made us to be!! 🙂
My son recently dissected a sheep’s heart & proceeded to tell us about his adventure on the way home from school. I can’t say that I was very enamored with his descriptions, even though he clearly learned alot. He was using words like ventricle, aorta, chamber & some others that I’ve forgotten. He thought that studying the sheep’s heart was cool – a unique look on the inside of how something important works.
How God has designed us on the inside (beyond our biological makeup) is extremely important. Don’t be discouraged when you’re not like someone else – you have a unique heart! Remember that you’re fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139) in the image of your Creator (Gen 1:26) with a wonderfully distinct bend for greatness that no one else has. Let the greatness that God has put inside you be the outside expression of who you really are.
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When I was a teenager, I wanted to fit in & be cool. If I’m honest with you, there are times when I still want to fit in. But alas, I’m unique & from God’s perspective, that’s wonderful! When you look at the world in which we live, it is filled with individuality, distinction & uniqueness. Think about snowflakes, flowers, zebras, clouds, etc.
So if you ever have those insecure moments when you feel like you don’t fit, be sure to turn your thoughts to the immensity & intensity of God’s love for you because you’re really cool!!
My dad was a really unique man & he didn’t seem to have any frustrations with his individuality. Thankfully, both of my parents have passed this along to me – they’ve always encouraged me to be myself & true to what’s in my heart. Now that I’m in my 40s, I believe that one of the best ways that we can honor God is to be true to God’s design & schematic outline in our lives. Trying to be like someone else is like slapping our Creator in the face. Comparing ourselves to others puts human limits on our Divine design.
So lets allow the genuine love of God to shape us into who God has made us to be – not quagmired or mired in human comparisons or confinements. Let love help you to be good at being you 🙂