When I was growing up, I felt super free to give my raw & unabbreviated opinion without much prompting. I even had a pastor tell me how when I was a teenager, I told him that I thought the vision he had for his church was worthless & that he needed to find something more meaningful to do with his ministry. I thought I was being challenging & insightful, when in reality, I was only being disrespectful. Ouch!! I still cringe when I think about the uber stupid things I’ve done & said. If I had to summarize the lion’s share of my regrets today, it would mostly come from being disrespectful & dishonoring.
- I would rather error on the side of being over-respectful than being under-respectful or disrespectful. I’ve lived with the consequences of both choices & I’ll take the consequences of respect over the consequences of disrespect, any day!
- I’ve noticed that when I treat people with respect, they tend to rise to the level of honor that I give to them, even if they start off being less than respectful. I’ve found that when I give respect to others, usually they will be respectful back to me.
- On the few occasions when someone continues to be disrespectful with me, I want to always make the decision to be a respectful person, regardless of anyone else’s choices or behaviors.