“Oooooos!”I wish I had a dollar for every time I said something I wish I could’ve retracted. And then on the other side, there are also many times I wish I would’ve said something but didn’t. Too much talking or too little talking, each have their own shortfalls. So having discretion & wisdom with our words is massively helpful & constructive!
Here are a few ideas that could be helpful with minding the mouth:
Affirmation – being encouraging is very helpful!
Graceful truth – important investments that help us grow!
Saying good – words that speak life rather than death express genuine love!
In our culture, more seems to always be something to pursue & an optimum priority. But I’m not sure that more is always better. When I think of more work, more exercise, more results, more time, more friends, more traveling, more of everything, I suddenly want to take a nap 🙂
There are definitely things that always need more: wisdom, discernment, worshipping God, prayer & awareness of God’s presence in our lives.
So let’s keep the essentials in the “more” category & let’s make sure that what could be good & helpful is supportive to those core essentials.
Let’s keep the main thing, the main thing!
Almost all of us have said things we wish we hadn’t. A few weeks back, I was passing through our church lobby & greeting various attendees & I shot off my mouth. I felt totally stupid & wish I could stuff those words back in my mouth. But of course, I can’t.
Here’s some wisdom my friend told me that I’ve employed & found to be immensely helpful. When speaking, consider these questions:
Should this be said?
Am I the person to say this?
Is this the right time to say this?
Feel free to share this with your fiends & friends ,)
When I was in 2nd or 3rd grade, I spread a rumor about my teacher that she was drunk. She was behaving strangely & given my limited experience in life, I tried to explain her unusual behavior, not considering that my explanation was slanderous & inappropriate. The next day, I was summoned to the principal’s office where I was severly reprimanded & returned to class with great embarrassment. My take away lesson was to speak less & think more – not a bad lesson in general.
Sometimes we are too quiet. Sometimes we need to speak out & be an advocate for ourselves, for those who are less fortunate & to oppose disgraceful & belittling situations, events & circumstances. The Bible has many examples of situations where people spoke out on behalf of the downtrodden, disenfranchised & belittled. This is a very significant reason that I’m so passionate about our work with nightcare – the shelter & safety we give to the babies of sex workers while they work. I’m speaking out on behalf of these babies, who have no power or ability to articulate their needs, hurts and concerns.