Paul on the beach saying goodbye to the Ephesian Church,
Jesus telling His disciples goodbye before the cross,
David saying goodbye to Jonathon
Goodbye’s are necessary for Hello’s. It seems to me that we often allow things that should stay in the “goodbye” compartment seep into new opportunities & sometimes undermine a new beginning. So we would be wise to take some moments to reflect on this past year & take an inventory of the things to which we need to say goodbye. Perhaps it’s time to say goodbye to some conversations that have been unhealthy. Maybe it’s time to say goodbye to some dysfunctional eating or spending habits. And maybe it’s time to say goodbye to the lies from the devil that we’ve entertained though various mental conversations.
Before we can heartily welcome 2017, let’s be certain that we’ve made the necessary goodbyes to stuff from 2016 & the past!
Feel free to pass this along to any friends or family that could find this helpful & let’s set up 2017 to be STELLAR!!
My family made the Thanksgiving meal yesterday & it was a smashing success! I’m not saying this to brag, but rather to acknowledge years of practice that have finally culminated in success – YAHOOOO!! In any given year in the past, I was practicing on how to cook a turkey that wasn’t dry or under-done. I was also practicing a few other dishes to make them not only edible but also tasty! And this year, I’m celebrating success!!!
We all want to be successful, but we don’t often celebrate the practice required to be successful – so let’s take a moment to applaud attempts & failures more than victories 🙂
Here are some things that help us to be successful:
Teamwork: yesterday, my whole family pitched in to make various parts of the meal & no one was unraveled by too much work!
Practice: keep trying!!
Testing: the guests that came to our meal were the testers. It helps immensely to have objective input on our journey to success
Proficient is a consequence of practice & it seems to me that practice gives us the space to make mistakes, learn, improve & grow into proficiency. So these are the things that I am continually practicing:
Gratitude – I’m not sure that we can ever be fully proficient with being thankful, so let’s keep practicing
Forgiveness – it’s hard to forgive, particularly when a person who is very close to us causes us pain, but just because something is hard doesn’t mean we should quit trying; indeed, the person who gets the most benefit from is the forgiver more than the recipient
Learning – let’s be curious about beneficial things & not stuff that’s meaningless or hurtful
Patience – uggggh, this one can really get under my skin, which means I desperately need to practice it more so it’s not such a weak spot
So what would be good for you to start practicing more over this weekend?
Having my kids home for summer break is wonderful & challenging. I certainly enjoy their company & they have super fun personalities. As their mom, I’m also responsible to help them grow into healthy, responsible & productive adults – or at least encourage their decisions to move in those directions.
Funny thing about this parenting gig: seems like heaps of what I tell them needs to flourish in my life as well. I find that my parental coaching has lots of application in my life & maybe this whole parenting thing is God’s parental efficiency plan. I most certainly don’t want to parent from a place of hypocrisy so I’m pushing myself to do well & live up to the stuff that I want to see my kids exhibit 🙂
I’ve had my share of airport meltdowns. I still feel sorry for the poor flight agent who got an earful from me about my luggage being small enough to fit in the overhead bin. Then there was the recent dude who wanted to weigh my carry on luggage – no need to give much animation to that exchange. And yesterday, I was hostile with the guy who made my salad because he gave me the wrong salad dressing. As much as I’d like to explain & justify my behavior, it is neither excusable not justified, full stop.
So here are my lessons that you might find helpful sometime:
With the Holy Spirits help, there’s always more patience than pressure.
Check your attitude – it’s too expense nowadays to bring extra luggage
Keep grace & poise in good form: practice, practice, practice
Watch the monitors: keep alert to your thoughts & anxieties, sometimes they can seep out
Get in the right line: bypass those cranky conversations & opt to bring peace & abundant forgiveness.
Traveling these days affords me ample opportunities to walk the talk 🙂
Easier said than done, to be sure!! But nonetheless, the decision to trust God more & worry less is both healthy & essential. All of us have uncertainties, impossibilities & varying degrees of stresses. What we do with this stuff is the important decision. It’s easy to let stress get under the skin & seep into the bloodstream, elevating our blood pressure & distorting our perceptions. When this happens, our decision making ability gets shady & we can make poor choices.
But let’s do that “taking captive” thing that Paul talks about in 2Cor 10:5. Let’s not allow worry to have a free run & unlimited access in our minds. When we start to worry & have troublesome thoughts, let’s pray first & ask the Holy Spirit to help us take those thoughts captive & not let them under our skin nor into our bloodstream! Dear friends, let’s worry less & trust God more 🙂
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I’m a super firm believer in having mentors & being a mentor. There’s lots of wisdom that we can acquire & pain we can avoid when we have mentoring in our lives. Sometimes we might feel short on mentors in our lives but for me, one of the best mentors are books. Here’s the honest truth with books – I read all kinds: leadership, management, spiritual, Navy SEAL books, Greek, etc. I also get lots of mentoring from various people by just asking questions & listening! I also get lots of mentoring by receiving correction & feedback that’s not always very affirming, smile.
Mentoring is good for us 🙂
“Sarah, it just takes time & you’re making great progress; remember that time is your friend & not an enemy.” My physical therapist for my shoulder keeps telling me that it just takes time: this to a person who wants to GO FAST, have fun, play some basketball, go swimming & be active. I’m learning that maybe I’m kind of impatient, possibly ,)
If I try to do too much or go too fast with my shoulder, I just hurt myself & delay my recovery.
These lessons can apply to lots of areas:
*learning to manage our money
*improving our physical health
*growing in our walk with God
*learning a new skill, sport or job
*parenting adventures ,)
Be patient in the process & don’t get discouraged. You’re doing great 🙂
When I was 19, I dislocated my shoulder playing intramural basketball in college & had surgery to repair my rotator cuff. Being a very smart & savy 19 year old, who knew everything & was highlyindependent, I didn’t want anyone’s help. I even remember my kind & patient roommate chastizing me about how I might possibly regret not letting people help me with my shoulder recovery. God bless my roommate – she was right & I was wrong.
Now I’m in my late 40s and have struggled with my shoulder for almost 30 years, most recently dislocating it during a snowboarding adventure. Having acquired some tread in life, I don’t want to make the same mistake that I made in my late teens, even when it means being altogether uncomfortable and asking for help.
The Bible is full of great examples of people who learned from their mistakes:
Joseph & his brothers when they came to buy food in Egypt
Moses not killing Egyptians when he returned to liberate the Israelites from Egyptian slavery
Paul stopped persecuting the church after his Damascus Road experience
Maybe it’s only bad to make mistakes when they’re the same ones over & over & over & over & over again 🙂