As I travel, I see people who struggle with their luggage, finding the departure gate, language challenges, etc. And I know I could be helpful on lots of this stuff, usually. However, I’m learning from various experiences that often being helpful in human interactions, is defined better by the recipient rather than person giving the help. I say this because there have been many occasions where I stepped in to help, without asking the person if they wanted my assistance. In no uncertain terms, I’ve gotten the proverbial hand slap for not asking first.
So when we want to help someone, instead of jumping in without asking, we would be wise to do these two things first:
Ask the person if they would like help
Ask how they would like help
This kind of communication is useful not only with strangers but also with co-workers, family members, friends, acquaintances, etc 🙂
Just a little practical wisdom from the road that we can all use for improving our communication 🙂
There’s lots of fun information, websites & youtube videos on how to do stuff. Indeed, one of my children considered themselves to be an expert with turkey brining having watched a few instructional videos on youtube. Alas, this child’s turkey brining efforts were less than expert on their first effort, even though this child was highly convinced about their proficiency. They made it abundantly clear that my help wasn’t needed nor appreciated – until the disaster was in full execution mode.
This is also what I sense the Holy Spirit telling me. Rather than trying to Do It Myself (DIM), it would be a brighter decision to ask for Divine Help. This means I’m deciding to be open for the Holy Spirit to be my Help, Guide, Truth, Wisdom, Strength, Comfort, . . . .
I’ve just read about the massive 7.9 earthquake in Nepal. The destruction & lives lost won’t be fully assessed for several weeks, but so far, more than 970 people have died. Now, it’s a race against the clock to unbury & rescue probably thousands more before time runs out for them. There are huge efforts being made to rush aid, support and life to this country, even though there’s concern that the airport in Kathmandu may also be damaged from the quake.
When I watch Jesus in the Gospels, I’ve never seen Him run away from nor ignore pain, suffering and hardship. Rather, when I look at Jesus in the Gospels, He brought life, freedom, redemption, healing, restoration and much more wherever He went. Rather than running from & ignoring pain, suffering, loss and hardship, at minimum, let’s run with concern and prayer to this desperately needy plight in Nepal. I don’t think Jesus suffered from charity fatigue #selah
If you come to my house, I can show you a series of “do-it-yourself” shortfalls:
attempts to clean up melted wax that’s been infused into our white carpet
katty whompus wallpaper that hangs neither horizontal nor vertical
I’ve come to the conclusion that there’s a reason we have experts for house projects & the same principle is equally true for the stuff with which I struggle in my heart. Let’s allow the Holy Spirit to be our counsellor and stop trying to fix ourselves with no Help. You and I need more Help than the DIY approach 🙂
There are lots of things I don’t know how to do. I can’t crochet, knit, sew, decorate, paint, computer program, repair cars or concrete, grow plants, . . . . . There are so many things that I can’t or don’t know how to do, that I could get overwhelmed with my inabilities & deficiencies. But the bright spot is that I have a unique and perpetual direct line to God Who knows how to do everything & even more.
When you feel frustrated & overwhelemed with inadquecies, look out, look up and look around because God is readily available to help, just for the asking 🙂
Have you ever had seasons in your life where you feel very overwhelmed? Sometimes we go through times where it seems like everything is broken & sometimes we go through seasons that just have lots of demands. Last week, I had one of those weeks – it was the kids last week of school, I had a couple of sermons to prepare, some work deadlines and a few other spinning plates. I felt like I was drinking from a fire hydrant on full open :/
Thankfully, this week has a little more breathing room. Regardless of the demands & pressures on our lives, it always helps me to remember that God is in charge & that I don’t have to be an “expert” on water pressure, time management, resource allocation, solution provision, energy distribution, etc. While I may have a few talents & skills, God is an expert at everything – most of all, God is an expert at loving us & helping us in our daily living, with or without fire hydrants ,)