lessons from intense conversations

 Yesterday, I had several very intense conversations on a variety of topics.  Why they all compiled onto one day, I don’t know.  But thankfully, they all turned out very constructively. Here are a few things I learned from these discussions:

  • be clear: about what the issues are:  make sure that everyone involved knows what is being discussed
  • keep the main point, the main point:  avoid rabbit trails – take each issue & work on it until its resolved as best as possible
  • avoid emotional escalation:  it’s ok to feel strongly about something, but be careful that your emotions don’t become the central concern of the discussion
  • timing:  rather than rush into a discussion, wait for the right timing – let God give you the green light for the conversation
  • listen carefully: to what the other person is saying, even repeating back in your own words what you think has been said;  this lets the other person know that you’re paying attention & want to understand their point of view
  • focus:  keep your eyes on God as your source of value, significance & direction

My conversations turned out super well – having these kinds of discussions are vital not only for their resolution, but more importantly, for our maturation.  Grow well my friend 😀

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