Seems like you can always find bad news & sometimes, it seems like bad news is determined to you. Whether you look on a nat’l or int’l scale or down to our individual lives, there can always be bad news. But the real issue isn’t always what the bad news is, but maybe moreso how we handle bad news.
When I was growing up, my dad could have a major melt down with a small piece of bad news, but if there was a MAJOR piece of bad news, he was a rock – stable, solid & steady. So here are some ideas & thoughts on handling bad news:
- pause & take a deep breath – take some moments to assess the bad news & evaluate it with some perspective: is this momentary bad news? does this have a permanent effect? in light of the big picture & eternity what does this news mean? what is my responsibility in this news?
- don’t let your mouth loose without some “paused” reflection – this helps us to avoid the foot in mouth syndrome
- find a safe place to let your hair down / vent – in your car, with some exercise, taking a walk, riding a bike, etc
- pray – when you vent, don’t leave God out of the picture. If you’re mad at Him, don’t shut Him out. The main person this hurts is you.
- be mindful of any destructive escapes or habits you might turn to – these would include: addictions, co-dependencies, food (dysfunctional behaviors), entertainment escapes (sports, movies, gaming, etc) & others
- if you’ve received some MAJOR bad news, try not to make any MAJOR life decisions in crisis times
- consider what Paul said in Rom 8:28-29, all things work together for good to those who love God & are called according to His purposes – our main responsibility is to stay in love with God & in His purpose for our life. From there, He will work it all out