Of late, I find myself being challenged to love more authentically. To me, this means that I’m challenged to love w less selfishness & with more generosity. Here’s an interesting example, after church yesterday, Reece took us to a nice restaurant for Easter lunch – the only challenge was that the waitress was having a rough day. Consequently, our meal took more than 2 hours from start to finish. So here’s my choice: be grumpy w the waitress who is already having a tough time or be super kind, generous & helpful. Hopefully, I landed on more of the “kind & generous” side of the choice, even though I felt impatient, etc.
I find God challenging me to love people more genuinely & less for what they can do in return for me – to love without expecting acknowledgment, gratitude or even retribution. Here are some ways that I am being challenged to authentically love:
- time: taking time to listen, engage, be present, to be less impatient & worried about being inconvenienced
- care: to express care by expressing genuine interest – asking questions that reflect concern, interest & engagement
- affirmation: using words that encourage, promote excellence, strengthen a person’s value, brighten another’s day, forgive quickly, validate & affirm the person even when I disagree w their choices or behaviors
I think that God loves the hell out of us in many different ways. I hope He uses me to make His love a daily reality to those with whom I interact – that’s a tall order that only He can accomplish 🙂