I have three wonderful teenage children, very intelligent & sometimes opinionated. And it’s not uncommon to have some very interesting & heated discussions at dinner time about all kinds of topics including politics, musical taste, movie preferences, Hollywood, current events, government policies, theological questions, historical events, recipes & a plethora of random topics. In addition to our wonderful kids, my husband & I have our own perspectives & opinions. So our dinner conversations can be both diverse & intense.
As I think about these conversations, it’s important to consider not only what is being said, but also the tone & context for these interactions. If we are going to maintain close relationships, disagreements are inevitable. Here are some helpful thoughts related to disagreements:
- Seek to understand more than being understood
- A sincere apology is helpful when there’s misunderstanding
- If you’re trying to “win” an argument, appreciate that someone will lose & maybe that’s not a good goal
- Respect is essential for constructive disagreement
- We can disagree without being disagreeable 🙂