Hair Dye

I’m writing this post, sitting outside of my hair salon with foils in my hair, looking semi-chic ūüôā

And of course, I get some odd looks, people thinking I’m the reincarnated character from “My Favorite Martian”. ¬†But alas, it’s just the normal hair dye appointment, where the grey gets covered over & I maintain the look that says I’m at least 10 years than my birthdate would confirm.

And whatever we may look like on the outside isn’t as important as the decisions we make on the inside. ¬†Our internal thoughts, emotions, values, decisions and perspective are loads more important than the external image. ¬†It’s in my thinking processes where I:

  • make decisions to be generous,
  • decide to act from various insecurities,
  • consider how another may be affected by my words / actions
  • choose to be afraid or choose to be constructive

So no matter how we look on the outside, let’s be certain we make internal decisions to be generous & loving people. ¬†What’s on the inside is what will often regulate what happens on the outside ūüôā

Anniversary Celebration!

My husband and I are celebrating 25 years of marriage this week & that’s a noteworthy achievement! ¬†It’s noteworthy for lots of reasons such as:

  • lots of seasons and changes to navigate: doing hefty careers, an intense baby season, growing in our careers, raising teenagers & a few medical challenges along the road
  • distinct personalities: ¬†we are very different in our personalities, so this requires us to give each other lots of grace, space & affirmation to be unique but complementary rather than combative
  • prickly insecurities: ¬†just because we’re married doesn’t mean our individual insecurities don’t get triggered from time to time; so it’s helpful to recognize such weak spots & decide to nestle into genuine love ūüôā

I’m definitely a better person from being married to Reece & there’s no doubt that God has helped us to grow in our relationship over the last 25 years! ¬†Let’s remember that being a person who is growing in character, love and strength is a decision we make one day at a time! ¬†And be certain to celebrate the milestones along the journey!

Suicide and Depression

In the last few weeks, I’ve learned of various people who have committed suicide and it’s heart wrenching. ¬†A few of these individuals have been pastors, which hits even closer to home considering that I’m a pastor’s kid, I’m married to a pastor and I am a pastor. ¬†These events have also made me reflect on various people over the years who have committed suicide.

As much as I want to be articulate in this post, I feel so deeply about this subject that I can’t seem to get my words or thoughts into some semblance of order or cohesive progression. ¬†So maybe I’ll just free flow with this post and pray that it’s helpful to you, somehow.

More than anything, I hope that you will be gentle, tender and kind with others and yourself, regardless of any external veneer. ¬†When we are in a car and see a handicapped license plate, sticker or a “baby on board” sign, we will often give that person a little extra consideration, grace and space because we know there’s a vulnerable / fragile person inside that vehicle.

May we also have the same mindset with the people in our lives, appreciating that each person with whom we interact, has their own internal struggles regardless of what the exterior looks like or how they behave. ¬†Let’s be purposeful to:

  • be comforting rather than critical
  • choose mercy over judgment
  • be hopeful more than hostile
  • express patience more than petulance

Those Yucky People

“Why is He eating & drinking with sinners and tax collectors?” ¬†This is what the scribes of the Pharisees asked Jesus’ disciples in Mark 2:16, when Jesus got all cozy with these less than upright scum. ¬†The tax collectors and sinners were considered “yucky people” by the religious leaders and zealots of Jesus’ day. ¬†So no wonder they questioned Jesus’ decision to not only associate, but also get cozy with such reprobates.

And I’m so thankful for His reply in Mark 2:17, “It’s not the healthy who need a physician, but those who are sick; ¬†I didn’t come to call the righteous, but sinners.” ¬†Thankfully, Jesus has never required us to get everything clean and pristine in our lives before He would hang out with us. ¬†Not only does He accept us as we are, but He makes us better because of His genuine love for us. ¬†In the same way, let’s be certain that no one in our lives gets the “yucky” treatment, being ostracized, belittled or shamed. ¬†Indeed, Jesus loves us and wants to love through us!

911

For many Americans, today is a memorable day because of the events from 2001.  I suspect that many of us remember where we were & what we were doing when the two planes flew into the World Trade Center in NYC. There are probably several other monumental events in your life that various triggers that evoke various memories & feelings.

While it’s important to keep these national events memorialized, let’s never trivialize the eternal work that Jesus does in our lives. ¬†His work includes not only our eternal salvation, but also the daily experience we can have with God’s genuine love not only to us, but also through us. ¬†Let’s be certain to remember God’s continuing work in our lives, so that God can express genuine love through us to the people around us! ¬†The world is living in a continual state of 911, making emergency calls that only God’s genuine love can answer & resolve!

Who Is Different?

When I was growing up, my dad would take me to garage sales, art galleries, museums, estate sales, hospital visits, nursing homes, etc with an occassional stop at Arby’s for a jamocha shake & potatoe cakes – yum!! ¬†So during my childhood, I was around lots of people who were very different than me. ¬†It helped me a lot that my dad was very personable & never knew a stranger because I was realtively quiet & reflective.

As an adult, I also have the privilege of getting to meet lots of people from all walks of life. ¬†I meet poor folk & prosperous folk, educated & uneducated people, polite & rude folk, insightful & obtuse . . . . Some people are alot like me & we see life from a similar perspective. ¬†In contrast, I’m also around alot of people who are very different from me & I love this!! ¬†What is wonderful about each person that I meet, is that they are deeply valuable, highly esteemed and massively loved by our Heavenly Father. ¬†Let’s be intentional that we cultivate connections with people are different from us & make the committment to express genuine love regardless of our commonalities or differences!

A New BED!!!!!

I’M SO EXCITED!!!!! ¬†We are getting a new bed today & this makes me happy for LOTS of reasons: ¬†better sleep, not as stiff, more rest & increased energy. ¬†Our old bed is tired, no pun intended. ¬†We’ve slept on it for countless years, extending it’s life by flipping & rotating the mattress multiple times. ¬†But it’s reached the end of it’s functional life. ¬†I know this because I wake up stiff, often tired, it creaks & it’s saggy in the middle.

There’s lots to be said about sleep & rest. ¬†Indeed, we spend about 1/3 of our lives sleeping / resting, so it’s an essential ingredient God has baked into our practical existence. ¬†Here are some things to consider about rest as we head into this weekend:

  • proper alignment: ¬†our backs need to be properly aligned so that we walk without pain & distortion. ¬†In the same say, when we rest in God, we can walk in our daily living, with less pain & distortion. ¬†Sleep & rest is when our backs & walk have the chance to settle into proper alignment
  • better mobility: ¬†with our old bed, I wake up stiff and sore everyday & it takes some time for my muscles to relax in the morning. ¬†When we consistently rest in God, we can have better agility to flow with Holy Spirit throughout the day. ¬†Better rest can mean increased agility ūüôā
  • clearer thinking: when I wake up tired, this tells me that my sleep wasn’t restful & this affects my ability to think clearly on any given day. ¬†When my thinking is murky, everything takes more work, my emotions are more challenging, I’m more prone to make bad decisions and my perceptions can be whacky. ¬†But when I’m well rested in my body, mind and heart, everything is more clear & I’m better able to perceive truth, which is an essential ingredient for effective living ūüôā

So here’s to getting a new bed! ¬†I’m also hopeful that you’ll make some time this weekend to be at rest ūüôā

Do You Need Abundance?

Sometimes we find ourselves running on empty. ¬†This can happen not just with finances, but sometimes we run out of energy, or we don’t have enough time, maybe our relationships feel shallow or perhaps you have more problems than solutions.

Feel free to watch & share this short video to see how Jesus provides for us!

Time Is Love

I was getting fuel this morning & there was an employee standing by to help or answer questions a customer might have. ¬†Since most of us could put fuel in our cars with our eyes closed, this employee didn’t have much to do other than circulate & be friendly. ¬†So we engaged in trivial chit chat: ¬†where are you from, nice weather we’re having, etc. ¬†We had a lovely chat & I thoroughly enjoyed getting to know him better so the next time I get fuel there, he won’t just be the “gas dude.” ¬†Additionally, we prayed together for our health with working out and making better eating decisions.

All of this happened while I was pumping fuel & a few minutes longer. ¬†The extra few minutes we give, can be an invaluable expression of love, since everyone is so “busy”. ¬†Let’s be lavish with our love by giving an extra few minutes to listen, affirm, engage and acknowledge people & not just functions ūüôā

Happy Rest Day :)

In the US today, we celebrate a national holiday called, “Labor Day.” ¬†The official year that it was started in America was 1882 & laborers had to strike to get the day “off” for a pause or rest from work. ¬†And I think it’s the universal human experience that we all need a pause from work. ¬†Perhaps we agree on this because of Divine design.
If you think about it, even God took a pause on the seventh day of the Creation week, when He rested.  And to reinforce the need for rest, God established the Sabbath as one of the Ten Commandments.  The Sabbath is one day a week to rest from our work & set our attention / affection toward fellowship with God.

So let’s celebrate not only success and productivity, but also rest because without rest our souls become thin, weary, unsettled and broken. ¬†Happy Labor Day!

Trusty or Tricky?

I recently received an email advertisement about getting 40% off a purchase at a store I frequent. ¬†When I attempted to use the discount, the cashier said that the discount wasn’t applicable because of the fine print. ¬†To my thinking, this is deceptive or tricky marketing and it doesn’t foster trust. ¬†It’s advertising that’s appealing, but the experience isn’t fulfilling.

Thankfully, Jesus isn’t a marketing trick. ¬†Indeed, Jesus far exceeds our wildest expectations and worthy of all our trust. ¬†There’s nothing tricky in Jesus, but rather everything trustworthy! ¬†Just because human marketing & expectations leave much to be desired, let’s allow our trust in Jesus to deepen since He is the ultimate expression of genuine love!

Being Wasteful

My dad grew up in the Depression, so i was raised with a firm appreciation for not wasting anything. ¬†To this end, he composted kitchen scraps, saved leftover paint remnants in addition to finding bargains at garage sales, etc. ¬†In Matthew 26:8, Jesus’ disciples had the same mindset when they asked Him about a chick¬†wasting expensive oil, since she poured it on Jesus’ head, as an expression of worship.

And worshipping Jesus is never wasteful, regardless of what people may say.

Indeed, let’s be extravagant in how we worship Jesus! ¬†The chick in Matthew 26 was extravagant in worshipping Jesus, using expensive oil. ¬†And in our modern culture, we can be extravagant in worshipping Jesus by:

  • spending time with Jesus, giving Him our attention
  • being generous with our finances in church, with ministries and to the poor
  • choosing to wholeheartedly participate in the worship time at our churches whether we like the songs or not
  • expressing gratitude and worship to God before we go to bed each night

 

Sheep or Goat?

Who is: ¬†hungry, thirsty, naked, sick, in jail or an immigrant? ¬†I was reading in Matthew 25 this morning about Jesus’ parable distinguishing between sheep & goat behavior. ¬†In this parable, the sheep are the people who see others around them who have various needs like clothing, food, shelter, belonging, care, attention and connection. ¬†In contrast, the goats in Jesus’ parable had no time, attention or capacity for needy people.

And this parable never fails to arrest my attention, forcing me to inventory my intentions and actions for sheep and goat behvaiors. ¬†I want to say with a genuine heart that I love Jesus, giving Him my worship & affection. ¬†But the reality is that however I treat the needy people in my life (those who are hungry, naked, thirsty, sick, living in bondage, or disenfranchised), is how I treat Jesus since He said in Matthew 25;45, “Whatever you do for the least of these [the needy folk] is what you do for Me.”

This verse always challenges me to love well, when I’d rather justify my selfish perspective ūüôā

Give Hope

“Everyone is going to make it!” ¬†In Acts 27, these were Paul’s words to his fellow travelers who were on a ship, when everyone had lost hope that they would survive. ¬†And these travelers had very good reasons to have lost hope: ¬†an horrific storm that lasted more than two weeks, no sun or stars (so there was no navigation ability), sailors who were trying to abandon the ship, endless ups and downs, rain, wind and instability on a ship, and no sight or inkling of land for numerous days, to say nothing of not eating for two weeks because of raw nerves and fear.

In our daily living, we get to choose how we will respond to the ups and downs of life. ¬†The people around us can be despondent and lose hope, but let’s be the one who stands confident in God’s goodness and love, offering hope and future, just like Paul in the middle of a brutal storm. ¬†Let’s actively choose to trust in God’s love and goodness, while offering hope as a life preserver to anyone around us who may be discouraged by the storms of life!

Called to Listen

We had dinner last night with a lovely couple & the husband said something profound that is continuing to echo in my thoughts today:  We are not all called to talk, in terms of public speaking, but we are all called to listen.

There are times, no doubt, when we need to speak up & be advocates for love and justice. ¬†Additionally, some of us have the gift of gab & our personality lends itself to be a “talker.” ¬†But let us never minimize the importance of listening – not only with our ears or intellect (so that we can interject a witty comment or some helpful wisdom), but also with our heart, so that we can be attentive with compassion, tender affection and gentle endurance.

In Mark 4:9, Jesus says, “He who has ears to hear, let him hear.”

Have a happy listening weekend!

Predicting Success

What does it take to succeed? ¬†Is success a consequence of luck, personality, talents, perspiration and focus? ¬†I think all of these things can be ingredients to help us succeed and I think there’s another essential component that is often overlooked because it’s simple and obvious:

routine

What you do everyday will predict where you will succeed. ¬†I saw this principle play out in my life from some advice from my dentist. ¬†It went something like, “Sarah, if you will floss more regularly, our teeth cleaning appointments will be shorter, your gums won’t bleed and your breath will be less offensive.” ¬†So I decided to try out this advice & guess what?!?!?? ¬†It worked! ¬†And I’ve taken this idea and integrated it into my daily routines for areas where I want more success. ¬†These are some examples of where I’m seeing more success because of cultivating better routines and habits:

  • writing: ¬†I want to be a better writer, so I’ve been writing virtually everyday for the last few years
  • intimacy with God: ¬†going to bed earlier every night has helped me so that I can get up in the morning to catch some daily time with God
  • fitness: ¬†I’ve been endeavoring to walk, at a minimum, everyday and my pants seem to shrink less from the dryer ,)

I know that God wants us to succeed, so let’s be sure to cooperate and work into our daily routine, habits that will foster successful outcomes!

Inadequate Meets Uber-Adequate!

There are times in my life where I am inadequate to meet the needs and demands of what’s happening around me. ¬†In these times, I know that I’m not smart enough, not strong enough, don’t have the energy to match the demands, nor do I have the endurance to match the race stretched in front of me. ¬†In these times, it’s tempting to get overwhelmed by the questions, the shortfalls, demands, inadequacies and scarcity I feel in my soul. ¬†Such deficiency is often a universal human condition and maybe that’s by Divine Design. ¬†Maybe God has always intended for us to never be enough, such that we must choose to reach outside of ourselves to find provisions beyond our finite resources.

Let’s be certain that we reach for God to participate in our lives every day and not just as a last resort! ¬†Indeed, God is more than enough for our overflowing deficiencies!

Willing to Change?

Right motives but wrong target: ¬†when Saul was going to Damascus to arrest the followers of Jesus, he was endeavoring to promote adherence to God’s ways, but he missed the point that Jesus is God. ¬†I think Saul / Paul had good intentions, but he was misdirected. ¬†Thankfully, God interrupted his plans & gave him some pause to make some major adjustments to his belief system.

I wonder for us today, if we don’t sometimes need to have some adjustments to our goals. ¬†Similar to Saul / Paul, I think we can have very noble motives and intentions (adherence to God’s ways), but how we accomplish such noble motives can be tricky. ¬†Ultimately, when we are followers of Jesus, we need to make genuine love our motive & outcome because of what Jesus says in John 13:35, “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

Are there any areas in your life that need to be changed so that genuine love is your endgame?

Selah ūüôā

Speed of LIFE!!!

A fourteen hour day can feel kind of overwhelming & sometimes we have long days, overflowing with demands & activities.  Modern living pressures us to stuff our days to the gills so that the more we get done, the better we feel and the more significant we are.  Consequently, the idea of a Sabbath flies in the face of the modern lifestyle.

Nevertheless, God instituted a day of rest in each week as one of the 10 Commandments, so it’s on the same level of importance as not murdering, loving God, etc. ¬†And I’m writing this blog, maybe to myself more than anyone else because I’m on a gerbil wheel with overflowing days and more work than time. ¬†When we keep time and fellowship with God as our top priority, then the speed of life won’t result in a trainwreck ūüôā

When You Fail

I’ve never met a person who enjoys failing & most of us avoid stuff that has a high risk for failing. ¬†But there are LOADS of people in the Bible who failed, took risks and some had tremendous successes – usually after they had overcome some significant failure hurdles. ¬†Some examples would include:

  • Jacob’s son, Joseph: ¬†failed with his brothers, but became 2nd in command to Pharoah in Egypt & rescued his family from famine
  • Jacob: ¬†tricked his brother & father, but went on to become “Israel” and the founder of the Twelve Tribes
  • Saul / Paul: ¬†gave hearty approval at Stephen’s martyrdom & became the largest contributing author to the New Testament in addition to founding the majority of early churches on two continents

When you fail, keep in mind some helpful perspectives:

  • failing is a verb, but failure is a noun: ¬†one can change but the other is more permanent
  • the greatest lessons often come from failing more than succeeding
  • failing can the essential fertilizer for redemption
  • no failure is beyond God’s power & love to transform into beauty, resurrection, abundance and divine success!